i tend to be attracted to fiery intimates. Correspondingly, in part because i can also be pigheaded, my romantic break ups tend to be dramatic/explosive.
But this is not how it always is, including my recent soft break with Angie. Angie and i had been drifting apart for a while. She was building her relationship with Chad, thinking about moving on from community and becoming a mom. I was digging into community politics and settling into other romances.
On her most recent visit, Angie and i discussed changing the status of our connection. It was not a long or charged talk, more a recognition of how things had morphed between us. She will still stay in my room when she comes down to visit. Neither of us wanted to preclude the possibility of a more romantic intimacy in the future, but it is not what is happening right now. So we let go, in a soft, friendly way.