In the time of Trump, it is critical to seek high functioning alternatives to the mainstream culture. Twin Oaks and the surrounding cluster of egalitarian communities could be a model for new behaviors of sharing technologies and cooperative culture. But perhaps our most daring export, because many default culture citizens think they are expert in this, is how to be a father.
Keegan and adder (sic) are two young fathers living in a rural income sharing egalitarian commune. But if you are willing to listen, i think their advice might be applicable for your world as well.
Other articles about communes and families:
- Parenting in Community – It takes a Village
- Negligent Parenting Magazine
- Wrong from word 2 – Yahoo Parenting discovers the Commune
- Utopia Child Rearing – by Keenan (not Keegan)
- Momentarily Viral – Don’t Read the Comments (on Yahoo Parenting article)
- Being a “Yes”
This is a rich topic. Your comments are welcome.
This is a repost of the CommuneLife blog. Lot of great pictures of communards getting out and being part of what many are describing as the largest protest in the history of the country. There is still lots to do, and we can celebrate that this event was a big gathering and an inspiring success.
Photos by Steve and GPaul of Compersia Folks from the DC and Virginia communes were very involved with the protests: Christian and Paxus of Twin Oaks appreciate PETA’s big fuzzy suits. Vegans GPaul of Compersia and Christian of Twin Oaks pose with PETA people. Paxus of Twin Oaks and GPaul of Compersia rest after the […]
Multi-colored “pussy hat” on Paxus was knit by Hawina, who was unable to attend, but wanted to be there in spirit.
It was not even 6:30 AM and I got handed a sign.
I was especially happy to see one of my core issues (nuclear power) on the stylishly designed placard.
We assembled in McPherson Square in downtown Washington DC. The plan was simple. There are six entrances to the Inauguration Celebration. Our goal was to block as many of them as possible to disrupt the flow of MAGAs (Make America Great Again hat people) and therefore the program.
Organizers told the group we were in that we had a number of undocumented immigrants in it. This meant we were going to do so-called “soft block” actions to reduce the risk of arrest. This included our “soft blockade.” Which really meant we were constricting traffic and slowing the progress of people trying to make it to the inauguration.
We were surprisingly effective. In part because the DC police were unwilling to suppress the protests. One of the gates was actually closed by locked down protesters, aided because the police were unwilling to hurt people to remove them. This stems from past protests where DC police roughed-up and arrested protesters prematurely and the city had to pay huge civil settlements.
It seemed as though the strategy was to arrest as few people as possible. Other gate blockers were dragged away by the police, and sometimes needed to be cut free.
We were with the peaceful non-violent protesters who were not breaking the law. These Movement for Black Lives activists who blocked the gate were using a known civil disobedience strategy; one in which they knowingly break the law (usually trespassing or obstructing traffic) with the intent of being arrested and standing trial for what they have done.
But there is another way.
There are those who would break the law, mostly destroying property, without any intention of cooperating with the police in their arrest and incarceration. While often identified as a group, the Black Bloc is really a tactic. It was originally developed in Germany for use in anti-nuclear and squatting actions in the late 1970s. Besides all the black clothed fashion, this tactic includes protecting yourself from police violence including scarves, sunglasses, ski masks, motorcycle helmets with padding, or other face-concealing and face-protecting items. This guise allows it difficult to distinguish between different participants and harder to prosecute.
Frankly, groups using Black Bloc tactics have been hugely head-achy for me. They often come to events that they do not organize and intentionally incite violence from with the police, demonstrating their predominantly white, male privilege. If you are trying to organize a non-violent civil disobedience action, a group using Black Bloc tactics can be one of your worst nightmares. It can destroy your action. It can ruin your relationship with the locals. It can incite police violence towards your peaceful protesters. And they can result in dangerous escalations of tensions.
The Black Bloc was different this time. First off, no single group could claim ownership over Trump’s coronation. More importantly, the group using these tactics was so big, that it did not really attach itself to any other action and acted autonomously (which is how they are supposed to work). People using these tactics broke some windows, burned an empty limousine outside the offices of the Washington Post, and were involved in the bulk of the 217 arrests from today’s actions.
Predictably, CNN would divide the protest world evenly between those destroying property and those who were not. In fact, there were so many actions and so few of them were destructive of property or violent, that almost all our large crew did not see any altercations with the police. Though there were some of us who sought out people a part of the Black Bloc to shadow the protests.
We were involved in several actions. Perhaps the most fun was the Festival of Resistance which started at the Union Square train station and marched back to McPherson Square. What you can’t see well enough from the above picture is that the parade stretches for blocks and blocks back to the station.
Shepard Fairey who created the famous Obama “Hope” image is back with “We the People” which had three lovely female images. As far as resistance art work goes, this was a great event.
If there is not enough time to have fun at these actions then you are definitely doing it wrong. At the end of the action we all relaxed a bit and found some folks with similar strange ideas as us. Cel has always identified with Wolves.
Protesters have all manner of advise. Much of it was directed angrily at Trump. Another big chunk of protest banners are oriented towards generalized critiques for general consumption. And finally, the smallest fraction of poster art is directed towards other protesters, like this image above. We are going to need a lot of bravery in the coming time.
You political experience is tremendously influenced by who surrounds you and how much you know them. I was lucky at this action. Most of the fine folks from Compersia in DC were at this action. Add to this various Point A activist from up the eastern seaboard and I had my very own basket of deplorables.
There were lots of good signs
More marching tomorrow.
Fortunately for me, my anger and confusion about the election results were quickly redirected. Within a day of president elect Dumpster Fire’s electoral college coup the requests started coming in. “Where can we stay in DC for the inauguration protests?” “Are you coordinating transportation to these events?” “Which action can I get arrested at?” “Which actions are permitted and family-friendly?”
Then began the frustrating and confusing task of figuring out what actions were in fact happening around the inauguration. Unsurprisingly, part of why this is confusing is Trump’s partisan Inauguration Committee is working hard to ban protests from happening anywhere near the event. They will fail.
Fortunately, my friend and world-class organizer Mike Ewall of the Energy Justice Network did much of the information gathering for me. Mike compiled a list of most of the known actions around the inauguration, which I turned into a Google document and started adding information to about how many people are attending and whether these are likely arrest actions.
DC area intentional communities are planning on hosting known out-of-town protesters (or perhaps we should take a page from the Dakota pipeline activists book and call them “Democracy Protectors”). If you are planning on coming to these events and need housing, let me know.
In order to build the kind of power that creates change you need a direct action campaign that harnesses a series of actions into an escalating sequence. Millions of Americans have participated in the past half-century in such campaigns: bus boycotts and lunch counter sit-ins, the Fight for $15, farmworkers, campus divestment campaigns on South African apartheid and fossil fuels, strikes against corporations, impeding mountaintop removal coal mining, blocking the U.S. plan to invade Nicaragua, preventing the completion of the Keystone XL pipeline. Despite this, most Americans don’t understand the difference between a protest and a campaign.
I think it is a good idea to go to these protests to help prevent them from being just one-off events and turn them into an on-going campaign and movement. This means that countering “he who shall not be named” and his plunder monkeys is going to take a lot more than freezing our butts for one weekend in late January in DC.
On the 4th of July this year, this blog pronounced that there were “Vacancies in Paradise*”. This was our poetic way of saying that after seven years of having a long waiting list, there were actually some spaces at Twin Oaks community. The article went into some length about how Twin Oaks is not paradise or utopia (despite both the media and academics trying to label us that way) and that this is just an internet ploy to get you to read the article based on the catchy headline.
Paradise is in your mind. Community is a real place.
A quick 6 months later, this is no longer true and Twin Oaks has a waiting list again. It might become a long one.
The population limit of the commune is determined by the number of adult bedrooms. We have about 107 bedrooms total and around 16 of them are for our kids. This leaves 91 adult member rooms. By the time i wrote the Vacancies blog post, we had dropped to 82 members. By last August we were at 77 members and people were really starting to worry.
Kaweah is the most recent residence
The community does not function well at 15 people less than capacity. There are 88 tofu shifts, 49 dish washing shifts, 55 garden shifts and hundreds more of smaller tasks every week to keep this hyper village going. If we are down 20% of our membership, a bunch of that work moves over to those who are still here and because some have limited work capacity, other members are even more heavily impacted. And some work just does not happen at low population, which can either drop our income or our quality of life or both.
We want to be at our population limit
Fortunately, population at Twin Oaks has bounced back in a big way. We are already at 91 labor sheets this week. The second to last visitor group was quite unusual in that it had 10 visitors and every single one applied for membership (this has not happened in the last 19 years). A couple actually said they say the Vacancies in Paradise article and it spurred them to apply.
While we did not accept everyone one of them probably and some are interested in joining in the spring, just the threat of a waiting list has filled us faster than normal. Plus there were 3 really good visitors in the November group and did accept all of them.
Don’t despair. If you really want to live in community there are still many which have openings, even here in Louisa county, even ones which are income sharing. And if your heart is set on Twin Oaks, then just apply to do a visit. About 20 members a year move on, you won’t have to wait too long before there is a place for you.
Perhaps this is the right place for you?
This is being published simultaneously with Commune Life Blog.
During tours of Twin Oaks I make sure to point out the things which we do that are unconventional. This makes the tour more memorable and hopefully thought provoking. At three different points there are business practices which drive MBAs a bit crazy:
Embracing Inefficiency: The jig that we make hammocks on is quite unconventional. If you go into any other woven hammock shop in the world, you will see a weaving jig which is operated by a single person. Sometimes these are upright and the person is weaving at eye level. Sometimes these are positioned like our jig and people weave at waist level. From the right angle these look like a capital U.
Our jigs looked at from above look like a capital H instead. This makes it possible for two people to weave hammocks across from each other. What we clearly observe is that when people can talk with other workers their productivity goes … down.
Why would any self respecting business use tools which make worker productivity decrease? Well, the easy answer would be we are not a self-respecting business in the conventional sense. As you might know all work (including income work) done at Twin Oaks is done by volunteers. Hammock shop managers think first of what will get people and keep people in the shop and only secondarily about what makes them go fast. If you oppress or make uncomfortable your hammocks production staff, they will go out into the garden or cook or make tofu or take care of kids or any of over 100 jobs which are available.
This has most MBAs scratching their heads.
Profit Insensitivity: As business professionals walk around and understand our economy they start to ask good questions. “If you make a much higher dollar/hour by having people work in the hammock shop or the tofu hut, why don’t you pull workers from low dollar/hour areas (like Garden) and simply make more money and buy organic food?”
The answer is “we want to grow our own food”. This is a cultural value for us. We want to live in a place where we are involved in all cycles of the farm, growing fruits and vegetables, running our own dairy and chickens programs and in good years even our own bee hives. None of this makes economic sense. We don’t do it for the money.
This causes MBAs to start pulling their hair.
Marketing without Money: Arguably the most unconventional thing we do is pretend that we can do almost all our marketing without spending money on it. We spent less than a thousand dollars a year on advertising. We prefer to use labor to do marketing. The problem is people generally don’t move to communes if what they want to do is marketing. I have been one of the few marketing managers in hammocks for decades, and I have not done very much with it until recently.
Our unwillingness to go to trade shows, run promotional advertising with our many online vendors, even run ads in our local friendly urban press cause MBAs to look for the door.
Uncharacteristically, an MBA from Richmond is interested in Twin Oaks. She has a good job and stable circumstance, but was profoundly influenced by the Women’s Gathering and wanted to check out the place which organized it.
I was excited by someone with business experience possibly living with us, despite the peculiarities listed above, there is much for us to learn. So as I do with people who really want to live here, I went over the biggest obstacles most outsiders have coming to the community.
- We are Filthy. We can claim we are a farm, or that we have a bunch of kids and messy strangers. But truth told at our core we are more than a bit unclean.
- Limited Privacy. Your personal space ends at the door to your room. There are lots of people out there and some of them are quite unusual.
- We will push your buttons. Hard as it might be to believe, what ever they are we will push them. If you know your hang ups, than this will be a personal growth opportunity. If you don’t know what plugs you in, the we are guaranteeing a (probably painful) journey of self discovery. Because we will find these buttons for you and push them.
Alexis did not pause. She had done her research, she was unworried about the filth. She was looking forward to living much more collectively and felt like she had a pretty good handle on her buttons. I just hope she is right.
Our customers send as all manner of interesting pieces of news about hammocks worldwide. This Dutch story particularly caught my eye.
Closer to home, yesterday was Black Friday and we launched our first major hammocks holiday season sale.
“Why have you not done a winter holiday sale before?” I can hear you asking. Principally because hammocks are very largely a seasonal purchase, and winter is not their season. Which is why we are leading with our stylish hanging chairs.
If you are looking for a lovely holiday present, go to www.twinoakshammocks.com and use the “HOLIDAYS2016” discount code once you have added something to the shopping cart. At 25%, this is the biggest discount we have ever had.
These hammocks, hanging chairs and accompanying pillows are made in the US, by our workers cooperative, nestled within our income sharing intentional community. What could be a better way to spend your hard earned money?