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Compersia lands on the Atlantic

A collection of intrepid adventurers have launched the newest income sharing commune in Washington DC and it is called Compersia. After failing twice to name this new community using naming parties, they discovered that one of the limitations of naming parties is that they are good at coming up with funny or lighthearted names. But when you are naming your home you might want something a bit more serious.


Compersia retreat January 2016

Compersia is derived from Compersion, which is roughly defined as the opposite of jealousy.  More precisely compersion is when you feel good about your intimate experiencing intimacy with another person.    Part of the reason why compersion is only roughly defined as the opposite of jealousy is that you can feel both compersion and jealousy at the same time.

The name is barely a month old and the major liberal magazine, the Atlantic, has completed a 6 minute video on them.  Here is the link to the Compersians discussing their community.  The reportage is all in the words of the members and thus it is a pretty upbeat piece of coverage.  Compersia is looking for new members and this might well help.

Curiously, just the day before the Atlantic posting, ran an article called “With Housing Costs Sky-High, the Commune Makes a Comeback” Which quotes a number of our friends at Ganas and Twin Oaks.


A collection of Old Twin Oaks photos use by

Nice to be seen a bit by the more mainstream press.


Better Labor Day Plans

Perhaps you are thinking about what you should be doing over labor day weekend. You have decided it is too expensive and too much hassle to go to Burning Man. You could visit your relatives, but Thanksgiving is looming and that is really a much better holiday for that activity. You could stay home and watch some sporting spectacular on TV, with teams you don’t especially care about with perhaps too many advertisements between plays.

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Ads can make you crazy

Or you could come to the Twin Oaks Communities Conference. It is reasonably priced, it has no commercials, you won’t get fine dust in everything you own, and unless they are pretty cool already you probably won’t see any of your relatives.

But rather than talk about what won’t be there, let’s explore some of what will be happening at this year’s conference.

The event is a mix of different types of content and social/cultural aspects. The content comes in three big forms.

There are scheduled workshops, the schedule for which is at the bottom of this post and the detailed descriptions can be read here. [You need to click the arrow by the workshop titles to open up the full descriptions.]

There is Open Space, which allows the participants to design their own workshops and present them. While the scheduled workshops are all on themes directly related to communities, the open space portion of the event can be on any topic about which participants are excited. In the past this has included permaculture, polyamory, anti-oppression work, a critique of Occupy, and how to dumpster dive.

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Open Space’s slightly tautological rules

The other formal piece of content the conference provides is the “meet the communities” gathering Saturday morning.  Everyone who is in a community (including ones which are just forming) gets 60 seconds to introduce what they are doing. Then all the representatives distribute themselves in the main gathering area and put up little signs or other information on their place and answer questions presented by milling participants. There might be 30 or 40 communities represented. And you might just find the one which is a great choice for you.

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A bunch of tables like this talking about different communities during “meet the communities”

There is lots of informal content. Experts and adventurers at meals talking about their experiences. Late night chats around the fire, about how happy we will be not to hear so much about Trump and concerns about Hillary. There will be new friends and romances. Smokers will chat comically or conspiratorially in their little area. New allies will bond over coffee and early morning rituals.

While the information provided would be sufficient reason to come to this event, it is the culture, fun, and personal connections which seal the deal.  For many people the conference is about brushing up against the very different way of living at an income sharing, secular community which has deep sharing agreements. The communities conference dance on Saturday night is one of the best dances Twin Oaks has all year. The mud pit and the river beckon. The FIC auction is entertaining and often a bargain hunter’s dream.

comm conf table

The scheduled workshop program is as follows:

Saturday: 1:30 – 3:15 PM

Panel discussion with the Federation of Egalitarian Communities
Consensus 201: Different levels of agreement for a consensus proposal
Organizing Community? Remember PC2
The Community Land Trust: Networking Wealth

Saturday: 3:45 – 5:30 PM

The Parable of the Sower Intentional Community
Culture Hacking 101: How to Create a Participatory, Intentional Culture For Your Community
Legal Clinic
Mutual Credit and Sociocracy

Sunday: 9:00 – 10:45 AM

Creating Fertile Ground for Community
Boundaries: Speaking Truth, Meeting Needs, and Releasing Attachments
The Role of ICs in Manifesting a New Paradigm/Next System
Overview of the new Urban Kibbutz Movement

Vacancies in Paradise (big asterisk)


For almost all of the last 7 years there has been a waiting list at Twin Oaks. It is now gone.


Welcome, have some of these!

People seek explanations for why we dropped down into the low 80s of adults, when we had been at our population cap of 92 for so long. There is no single reason.

But because there are now spaces available to people who come to do the visitor period, it is worth reviewing why it might be a good time to ditch your mainstream life and consider living in a full service commune.

No Bosses: Our managers are nothing like your manager. They don’t generally fire people, they don’t determine raises or promotions. Instead they organize trainings and make sure the needed materials are available and the machines are functioning properly. Every one of our ‘managers’ also works on the production line. Because all jobs are volunteer, managers who exploit their co-workers find themselves lonely. This drives the MBAs a bit crazy.

collectivism worth fighting for

No Money: Can you imagine going through your day and not touching cash or credit cards? The commune strives to and largely succeeds in providing all the things people need outside the conventional money system. Food, housing, clothing, medical services, education, and entertainment are distributed freely and fairly. You work your quota (currently 42 hours a week) and all your needs are met.


No advertising: Transformative festivals like Burning Man make a big deal out of being non-commercial and largely advertisement free. For many attendees the break from the constant onslaught of commercial images and invitations to buy things, most of which you don’t want, is a big relief. But you can’t live at these festivals. You can live at Twin Oaks, where if you stay off the internet and don’t read one of the many magazines we collectively subscribe to, you can avoid advertisements indefinitely.

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Commie Clothes is less colorful, but more practical

No punch clocks: One of the other things the boss you don’t have is not doing is keeping track of your hours. In this trust-based system you record the different work you do. Our flexible work system means you can always find work in the hammock shop or in the kitchen and if you want to be scheduled you can be, but if you prefer to figure it out yourself each day, that is available also.

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Are you a slave to clocks?

No fear: What do you feel if you hear someone behind you in the dark whom you don’t know? While it is not true to say we completely escape all crime, we avoid so much of it that some visitors realize the difference between where I live and where they live is that there has been a constant mostly low level threat for most of their waking hours, which vanishes in this prosaic collective rural living.

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It is not just what we don’t have that defines us, the things we do choose and possess are crucial.

We strive to be self-sufficient: We build our own buildings, organically grow most of our own food, run our own businesses, teach our kids,  and create our own holidays and culture. The community has spawned and nurtured painters and poets, quilters and woodcarvers. We’ve had folk singers, rock bands, chanters and primal screamers. You can find someone to teach you how to juggle, or program a computer, or deliver a newborn calf. We stage our own theater productions and provide an unusually appreciative audience for visiting performers. We have our own coffeehouses, writing groups, and social clubs.

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Aerial view of a small part of Twin Oaks


Economic self-sufficiency means we have seven businesses:

  • We make about 8,000 hammocks a year and sell them online and in stores and at the craft fairs we attend.
  • We make 400,000 lbs of tofu.  We are just starting a new line which will enable us to double production.
  • We indexed 60 books last year, mostly with academic presses.
  • We have a contract services business which does demolition, elder care, house cleaning and removes the basketball floor at midnight on Thanksgiving at UVa John Paul Jones Arena.
  • We do seed growing and wholesale distribution of Acorn’s Southern Exposure organic and heritage seed business.
  • We run conferences and gatherings, like the upcoming Womens Gathering (Aug 19 thru 21) and Communities Conference over labor day (Sept 2 thru 5) as well as the Herb Workshop.
  • We sell beautiful organic ornamental flowers.


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Acorn’s seeds become flowers – photo credit Gryphon

We live lightly on the land: We heat our buildings with sustainably harvested wood from our land. Most buildings have a solar hot water preheating system and half of the newest residential building is off the grid completely, using only electricity provided by the sun, with residents agreeing to keep consumption low and use efficient appliances. We sort our waste into over a dozen different categories and reuse and recycle fiercely. The food we don’t grow we buy in bulk, which cuts down on packaging. We have our own sewage treatment plant, which runs at well-above state required standards and are planning a constructed wetlands. We have 20% the carbon foot print of our mainstream counterparts, mostly because we share things so robustly: clothes and cars and buildings and bicycles and musical instruments.


Installing solar panels at Twin Oaks

We are self-selecting: You cannot simply move to Twin Oaks tomorrow, and strangers who just drop in are politely asked to leave. You need to write us first and link up with one of the regularly scheduled three-week visits, or just take our Saturday tour. During the three-week visit, we orient you to our culture and more importantly, it gives both you and us a chance to live and work together. Then we ask visitors to go away for a month and think about whether they really want to live in our slightly odd and extraordinary village.


Are you really one of us?

[This is the big asterisk part] *But it is not paradise: There are all kind of good reasons why people leave my commune (or never come in the first place.) Some people want more independence, they don’t want to have to ask the health team for some expensive exotic medical procedure. Some people want more of their own space than their own room. Some members leave because they don’t find the romantic partner they want, or the one they had ended the relationship and it is too hard to see their former partner every day.  It is hard to make enough money to take long trips or far away vacations (our members get a tiny allowance of $100 a month.)

And then there is this resume problem. If you want to be a millionaire or CEO, you should probably skip the commune step. This is not to say that some members have not used the community as an applied university. And we have had many general managers of million dollar businesses who were in their early twenties. But when they ask you how much you were paid at your last job, your next employer is likely to be unimpressed by in-kind wages.


The real question to ponder is, “Are you ready for a radical departure from what you are used to?” Community could be the answer. And now that there is not a waiting list at Twin Oaks, perhaps this is the right one for you.

If you are interested in applying for membership click here.

The post originally appeared in the CommuneLife blog.



Boston Area Workshops March 19th

If you have friends or allies in the Boston/Cambridge area, I recommend two workshops on Intentional Community:

  • Community in Crisis: How to Manage and Mend – 1 PM (Facebook Event)
  • Community as the Solution to Climate Change – 3:30 PM (Facebook Event)

Saturday March 19 at MIT Room 13-4101.105 Massachusetts Ave. Cambridge Mass

It’s a short walk from the Kendall Square Subway Station.

Residential intentional communities both represent a solution to major problems facing humanity and work with some of our most complex interpersonal dynamics. These two workshops examine how to navigate some of these troubles and what fixes communities are offering the greater society.

These two workshops are open to the general community, though the first workshop (Community in Crisis) is especially applicable for members of cooperative houses and co-housing communities.

Community in Crisis: How to Manage and Mend

Invariably, communities will experience conflicts and interpersonal problems and occasionally these are quite serious. This workshop looks at different types of critical problems that have hit communities, especially ones where the cohesion of the membership is threatened, and looks at best practices for managing them. How do you avoid putting members on trial? What are the trigger words that escalate conflicts and how do we communicate effectively and avoid them? How do you use shuttle diplomacy before mediation to lower tension? How do you know when the whole group is involved or when it can be managed by a smaller sub-group? When is it clear the group needs to break up/change composition to make things better?

Once you are on the other side of a crisis, what can be done to rebuild trust and intimacy? How do you harvest knowledge from the problem to avoid repeating it in the future?

This interactive workshop will use role plays and case studies to explore different approaches to the art of building community harmony.

Presented by Paxus from the Point A project.

fifth sacred thing

Intentional Community as a solution to Climate Change

Central to the problem of climate disruption is idle material resources. The UN IPCC recommends an 80% reduction in carbon footprint by 2050, yet no industrial nation is on track for this level of reduction. In central Virginia the members of income sharing communities are living middle class (or some might argue upper middle class) life styles while outperforming this target reduction. The secret to their success is radical resource sharing.  

The  Twin Oaks Community represents over 100 people sharing cars, clothes, income, businesses, buildings, and bicycles and thus dramatically reducing their per person climate effect. This lifestyle is also culturally rich, economically sustainable, and mutually supportive.

This workshop will begin with a presentation on the sharing technologies which underpin these village economies and how the members maintain the trust needed. The second portion of the workshop is interactive and will explore how urban dwellers, including workshop participants, can foster sharing systems in urban environments.  

Paxus Calta manages recruiting and outreach for Twin Oaks community. He is coordinating the Point A campaign to spark new high model-value communities inside the five boroughs of NYC. He has fought nuclear reactors in eastern Europe, hitchhiked across the Pacific on sailboats, and smuggled monks out of Tibet.  


6 Creatures and 4 Communities

One of the most important capacities of intentional communities is changing culture.   This can be changing how people dress, how we report relationships at work, how we teach our children or how we observe holidays.

Valentines Day has always struck me as a broken holiday.  It celebrates just one style of relationship, sets people up for too big or too small gifts of their caring, and creates many people who feel left out.    Before I lived in community, even when I had a single romantic partner, I never liked this holiday much.

Many years ago, in response, our sister community East Wind developed Validation Day as an alternative.  Every member is celebrated in the form of affirmations, no romantic partner required.  Part of the celebration is the creation of cards.  There is a great dance, often a kissing booth and the 6 creatures game.

Paxus signign validation day cards

Validation Day prep 2001?

The 6 creatures game is designed to take the rejection out of asking someone to hang out or even to make out.  The idea is that leading up to the party (which happens around February 14th, famous worldwide for being my son Willow‘s birthday), people who want to play are given a ballot with the names of the others who want to play.  There are options (represented by different creatures) for a work date, a play date, a cuddle date, to kiss at the party, hot sex and/or a relationship.

For anyone who is playing, you select what you may want to do with them.  I might just want to kiss someone at the party.  If they selected only a work date and a play date for me, we would miss each other completely, getting no matches with each other when the games were returned. But if I had selected a play date and kissing at the party, then we would match on the play date and both be informed of that only.

petals on table romance

Regular readers will not be surprised to discover I play this game somewhat recklessly.  I was willing to have at least a work date or play date with perhaps 80% of the people on this years 6 creatures game ballot.  And in my experience, many of the created matches don’t actually get acted on and every year there are some surprises. Yet some of the matches turn out to be important, even life changing.

About 40 people decided to play the 6 creatures game this year, spanning four different communities in the area: Twin Oaks, Acorn, Sapling and Cambia.  This is new; until recently only Twin Oaks members played.  But as the movement expands locally, more communards want to play this long lever game.

hearts and candles

Validation Day is a more internal holiday.  Some events, like New Years Eve and Anniversary are big holidays where we invite lots of people to come.  Validation Day is still a larger event, but it is more intimate people who know us better.  You certainly should not come by without being invited.



Point A DC Naming Party – you can help

I am spending the current Snowpocolypse in a place called Swan Point.  It is a lovely Point A DC retreat which is hoping to do a bunch of things, including start the income sharing group in Washington.  I am pleased to be hanging with such a clever, talented and motivated group.  If anyone can pull off this perhaps impossible task, it is the likes of these folks.


Urban communards all snowed in and happy

And names are important and we don’t yet have one for the DC Point A community.  Below is the list of names which have been suggested so far.  You can put in your votes (6 yes votes and 3 no votes) for the names you like and those you can’t stand.  You can reply either on Facebook (where this is posted on 1) my personal page, 2) The FEC Facebook page or the Point A Facebook page) or if you are not on FB at all, or dont want them to know what you think, you can leave a comment on this blog.   You are also welcome to make suggestions for new names for the commune.   The names currently on the list are:


Asylum for Idiots (What the first promising Point A DC site was originally called)

Georgia Flats (we are most likely to be near Georgia Avenue)

Salt Flats (we are likely on Morton St)


The Tower of Power

Anarres (the anarchist moon from the classic Sci-fi novel The Dispossessed)

Kat’s Cradle (for Kat Kinkade, founder to TO, Acorn and East Wind)

Point B

Babel II

The Hanging Gardens of Morton St

Cappel’s Follie


The House of Common


Orbital Lifeboat Factory

Point Awesome

Bliss Wallah


K Street Extension

Terra Prime

Dream Village

Alchemy Lab

All You Can Eat Shrimp Just $4.99 (was almost sort of Batman‘s new name)

Stone Soup

Echo Estates

Fawkes Gloves

Hologram House

Point Z

Morton Street Kommune

The Fortune Cookie Factory

Commune Pooper

DC Bolsheviks

The Matriarchy


Blind Faith


Unicorn Factory


Laser Snake




11235 Eureka!


The Anarchist Frathouse

The Arbor

Paradise Found


Fast Forward

Best Chance

Double Back


Open Secret


Tech Startup

High Risk

High Wire





Bent Thunder


Fair Share

Long View

Charismatic Wolf Leaders

Microcosm (making members Microcosmonauts)

Castle in the Sky


The Hanging Gardens


The A Ward

The Ward (we would be Wardens)

The Twin Towers

Cuddle Cult






The Supernatural

The House of Unicorns

The Communist Castle

500 Grumpy Anarchists


ACDC (an acronym for A Commune in DC)

Some of these names are crazy unlikely.  Even tho i have an old lover named Styrofoam, the Point A folks are unlikely to choose this clever name.  Nor (thankfully) does Communist Castle have much of a chance.

Help us Choose, by commenting on this blog or write on the Facebook Pages this article is posted on.  Feel free to add your own names, we will likely choose quite soon though, so hurry.